HELP!!! The man I dated is not the man that I married!

“What happened?”   I keep asking myself this question.  The man that I dated is not the man that I married.  I hate thinking that everyone is right…. that men will do or be ANYTHING just to get a girl.  And then they don’t feel like they have to hide who they are once they are married.

And then I wonder, “where did I go wrong?”   At what point in time did things change and why didn’t I notice.  My life has been so difficult since I have gotten married….  now don’t get me wrong…. I knew it was going to be difficult, but it hasn’t been difficult in any of the ways that eveyone said that it would be.

Yes, I have dealt with the “going to other things for fulfillment” issue.  And now I am dealing with something that is so, so, so……  completely opposit of the man that I wanted to marry.

I made it VERY clean that if I was going to get married that I was going to have to have a man that would LEAD ME.

When we were dating he was focused.  He had goals and ambitions.  And now there is nothing.   The man is null and void. He’s not focused.

For example:  The other day we were watching my little siblings.  My little brother (6 years of age) asked for a glass of water and I said “sure” Titus was already pouring himself a glass of water and would have easily been able to get another glass, but he didn’t…..  he put the pitcher of water back into the fridge!!!!!  WHO DOES THAT?!?!?!   I wish that I could truly comunicate how he is JUST NOT THERE.

I asked him today what his purpose was…… do you want to know what he said to me?!?… of course you do….. he told me, “I’m not sure any more”

*****sigh*****   This is not the man that he is….I know it’s not.   Even before we were dating he was a hard worker.

I just don’t know what to do.

We moved 50 miles so that he could go to the university over here… that was six months ago and he hasn’t even filled out and application yet.

Where has my husband gone…. and how do I get him back????

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