Making Up

So, my husband and I have been doing much better…   We have a talk where I just laid it all out there.  Now as a Christian I don’t believe that divorce would have been an option in this situation, but I believe that seperation would have been.  Or even worse, still living together and being together, but not actually being in the relationship.  Anyway,  I told him that I couldn’t be in a relationship that was like this.  It had become almost emotionaly abusive.  The only things that were ever said were negative…. and that hurts and it is really hard to take after a while.

(another little blurb:  While we were courting/dating and while we were engaged he had been writing me letters in a journal that he gave me when we got married. )   I held up that journal and I asked him where that man had gone.

I was so frustrated because he kept telling me that I needed to get up and get ready to go to church, and all I wanted him to do was to sit down and try and fix what was broken.  He had this mindset that all we needed to do was go to church that day and all would be better.  And I believe that God will be ok with it if we miss one service so that we can work on our relationship.

So, finally he said that we could stay home and he read to me out of that journal of letters that he had written me.  In one of the letters he wrote  something about how if he ever gets too wropped up in life, or if he ever gets to busy to love me that I should hit him .

That’s exactly what had happened (no no,  didn’t hit him) … he got too wrapped up in life to enjoy “us”.

But it’s over now.  We have gone almost a whole week without have an argument.  It used to be EVERY day.

But God is good.  He has helped us through.